The Other Issue With Kim Kardashian’s Nude Photo – Why it Has Nothing to Do With Female Empowerment

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March 10, 2016 by Katia

 

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I believe in teaching children about gender equality. I believe that female empowerment is one way of doing that. I believe in a grownup woman’s right to post a nude selfie on the internet. I believe there’s nothing wrong with being proud of the way your body looks. I don’t believe that having a positive body image and being proud of one’s body equals being a slut. I don’t believe that having a positive body image and being proud of one’s body equals being anti-feminist. Or feminist. I believe in the right of a photograph like KK posted on Instagram earlier this week to exist on the internet alongside many other similar ones.

I don’t believe in cop outs. I don’t believe in “when you have nothing to wear, wear an ideology – like Female Empowerment”.

When you're like I have nothing to wear LOL

A photo posted by Kim Kardashian West (@kimkardashian) on

What I absolutely detest about the photo has nothing to do with the image itself. It’s more about the pairing of it with the caption “when you’re like I have nothing to wear, LOL” and the lack of awareness (self and public) embodied in this act. Unlike the empowered adult woman KK paints herself to be in the ensuing rhetoric (through Twitter, of course) the caption is a cop-out, cutesy humble brag of sorts. Clearly KK wants you to admire her body, and why shouldn’t she, but instead of just saying so like a grownup she chooses to kid around about clothing and adds the obligatory LOL to drive the joke home.

Now let’s talk about LOL for a minute. My six year-old has recently learned to use the expression “no offense”. He’s been known to pair it up with incredibly offensive statements and thinks that the mere addition of the words at the end of a sentence cancels out its potential negative emotional impact. Some people use LOL similarly. Put an LOL at the end of a controversial situation et voila you’ve annihilated it! Because LOL!  If you are indeed proud of your body and wish to use it as a means of empowering other women why post a cutesy message like “when you’re like I have nothing to wear, LOL” instead of saying something more relevant to the subject in the accompanying message? Or was the joke about having nothing to wear “IT”? Was there a hidden social commentary or critique there, something to do with our constant preoccupation with clothing as a defining trait of women, and if so is that empowering and how? Or was the mere fact of taking your clothes off (and the implied – by choice) an act of empowerment? If so – how? Because YOU did this? Because nobody else told you to? Because as women we’ve come to expect that the norm is to be put in situations where somebody else might tell us to or expect us to take our clothes off? I am SO confused!

Don’t get me wrong, I am not saying that a nude selfie of a female has no right of existing on the internet unless it’s “legitimized” by a fake RAH-RAH FEMALE EMPOWERMENT rhetoric. I don’t believe for a second that KK was posting the photo as a means of empowering herself or other women since as we’ve established there is nothing to speak to that effect, but I still believe in her right to post a photograph like that without any ideological “justification”. Just because she felt like it is a good enough reason in my book. She might have been thinking “DAMMIT, I’m looking HOT and I don’t want to turn ninety and realize that I never shared this moment with the world!” (a principle which seems to govern a lot of KK’s online decisions) . But if that’s the case, then OWN IT. Like a mature, empowered female. If it talks like an empowered female it should also walk, tweet or Instagram like one – to put it in social media palatable terms. The dichotomy here points to either a lack of sincerity or self awareness.

The worst thing about the caption is its lack of sensitivity and awareness of the unwritten responsibilities a public figure’s status entails. To be a Kardashian is to have, by definition. If you’ve got a sense of humour then by all means share it with the world – it’s no less important than your butt and boobs. But as Chloe Grace Moretz and Pink pointed out in their critique think about WHO you’re sharing it with (my “IT” being the joke, as opposed to the boobs and butt they were referring to). There are people out there who genuinely DON’T HAVE, people who don’t have by definition, and they might find a joke about not having made by a millionaire (married to a millionaire, fathered by a millionaire) as she stands on the marble floor of her bathroom to be in poor taste. Launching below-the- belt-attacks on those who criticize you (Bette Midler’s age and Chloe Moretz’s celebrity status) driven, it seems, by the sole fact that you were criticized reeks of entitlement rather than empowerment. The act of empowerment assumes holding other people’s interests in mind and working toward promoting others none of which is reflected in the selfie and the ensuing shit storm.

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12 thoughts on “The Other Issue With Kim Kardashian’s Nude Photo – Why it Has Nothing to Do With Female Empowerment

  1. Dawn says:

    Well said my friend. Her false intentions are just gross. And the fact that she probably doesn’t even know any better is frightening.

  2. Catherine says:

    Dawn. I do believe KK does know better. For someone to make a smug and entitled caption like that–she knows better. She is vulgar in her words and thoughts. She hides behind her body with her entitlement the way bible-banging faux Christians hide behind Jesus.

  3. juliemgreen says:

    Totally agree. I really objected to her hashtag #liberated. Meh.

  4. The Waiting says:

    This is brilliant. Well-said, my friend.

    • Katia says:

      Thank you so much, my friend! It was one of those things where you get so upset that words just start pouring out the minute you sit down to write.

  5. Yes! I would much rather see someone “own it” rather than try to grasp on to the Empowerment Train later. If you were that empowered you could have written that essay in the original post.

  6. Katia says:

    Thanks So much for sharing, my fellow Caffeinated Canuck mom🙂 (I caffeinate on tea and Coca Cola).

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